Giving the Gift of Your True Self

by Debra Landwehr Engle

Years ago, one of my college roommates came to visit. We sat on my back porch to catch up on our lives, and she told me she’d been seeing a therapist about some early childhood issues.

One of the things her therapist told her created a miracle in her mind—a change in perception and a natural occurrence of love.

The therapist’s words were:

“You are a precious jewel. Treat yourself that way, and teach others to treat you that way, too.”

A precious jewel. This was stunning to both of us, since we’d both been divorced and were questioning how lovable we really were. The word “precious” would never have entered our minds. But now, here we were, presented with the radical idea that we had value and were worthy of being treasured.

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When I think back, I realize how easy it is to forget that truth, especially if we’re used to questioning our own worth.

But it IS truth for all of us. No matter what we think of ourselves or what we’ve been through, we are all precious jewels. Children of God. Sparks of the Divine. Worthy of giving and receiving love without question.

Our entire lives depend on remembering this one simple truth. Remembering means living with joy, confidence, generosity and forgiveness.

Forgetting means living with anxiety, fear, scarcity and guilt.

So how can we remember?

Fortunately, there are many ways to support the precious jewel within.

For one woman I know, it means eliminating all negative self-talk. She works in a male-oriented industry and realized that, if she wanted to be free of female bashing from her co-workers, she had to start with her own thoughts about herself.

For another, it means practicing all the basics of good self-care, such as getting enough sleep, doing yoga and eating foods that are vibrant and alive. She also listens to her own intuition about the trajectory of her life rather than letting herself buy into other people’s expectations.

For me, it means periodically unplugging from beliefs that don’t serve me. I do this by asking for my fear-based thoughts to be healed, and by sitting down each morning to listen to my spirit guides.

But I also do a visualization that might be helpful for you, too. Here’s how it goes:

Picture yourself in front of an old-fashioned switchboard—the kind where you’re wearing a headset, manually unplugging and plugging in lines to connect phone calls.

Now imagine that the switchboard has dozens of beliefs that no longer serve you.

For instance, “At my age, I’m going to start having health problems.”

“No matter how hard I work, we never have enough.”

“Life is hard, and I’d better prepare for the worst.”

“Our family never gets along. The holidays are going to be a pain again this year.”

Now see yourself unplugging from those beliefs, literally pulling out the cords. Express thanks for the ways these beliefs have contributed to who you are today, but respectfully let go.

As you do this, know that you are effectively unplugging from your fear-based thoughts. You may feel an energetic shift when you disconnect.

Now see another switchboard with beliefs that you want to plug into and do the process in reverse.

“I don’t live my life like anyone else. I live it like me.”

“My physical body is vital and healthy.”

“I experience the abundant flow of the universe in all areas of my life.”

“I am a precious jewel, and I see the treasure in everyone I meet.”

When you’re finished, write down the beliefs you’ve adopted so you can affirm them every day. Then thank your guides and Spirit for supporting you.

The key is to do this and other spiritual practices daily so you continue to remember the truth, because your life literally depends on it.

Remember that the precious jewel you are is the best gift you can give yourself and the world this holiday season.

So be self-loving. Be merry. And most of all, be light.

Happy holidays!


Debra Engle is the author of The Only Little Prayer You Need and Let Your Spirit Guides Speak. You can find her on Facebook and at debraengle.com and at her Patheos.com blog “Everyday Miracles.”

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Our March Titles Are Almost Here!

Are you as excited as we are about our March titles? You should be! March’s titles range from how to find happiness, surviving change, our love affair with vampires, and secrets, conspiracies and cover-ups. Read on for more about our latest titles! All books will be available on March 1st wherever books and e-books are sold.


find happiness nowFind Happiness Now: 50 Shortcuts for Bringing Love, Balance and Joy into Your Life

Jonathan Robinson

From the author of the bestselling Communication Miracles for Couples, are 50 simple yet powerful tools for finding and maintaining happiness.  Divided into four sections: Loving Yourself, Improving Relationships, Connecting with Spirit, and Living Your Dreams, readers will find a plethora of easy, practical ways to have better relationships, increased success and enjoyment in their careers, a more loving connection with themselves, and a lot more fun in their lives.

Grow your self-esteem, stop worrying about money, become your own hero and tackle major decisions – these are just a few of the ways that this book can improve your life and help you find happiness.

(Conari Press)


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How to Survive Change…You Didn’t Ask For: Bounce Back, Find Calm in Chaos and Reinvent Yourself

 M.J. Ryan

We all know “change is hard” and it can be even harder when we don’t see it coming. In How to Survive Change…You Didn’t Ask For, Ryan provides strategies to retrain your brain and optimize your response to change, step-by-step: by first accepting the new reality, then expanding your options, and finally taking effective action. She provides many tools for becoming calmer, less fearful, and more flexible, creative, and resourceful in your thinking. The best part – as your adaptability increases, so does your confidence and with her guidance, you will be able to survive and thrive no matter what life throws your way. (Conari Press)

 


100 Things You’re Not Supposed to Know100Things Not Supposed to Know: Secrets, Conspiracies, Cover Ups, and Absurdities

Russ Kick

This books sheds light on things that people in power – government, religious leaders, corporations, the rich and well connected- just wish you didn’t know. Through careful research and impeccable sources, Kick uncovers the hidden truth. For example, self-appointed censors warn constantly about the dangers of pornography, but the fact is that pornography has existed since the first cave people carved dirty pictures on the wall. It’s also true that two atomic bombs were dropped on North Carolina, although we managed to avoid nuking Greenland, Texas, Canada, Britain and Spain.

All of these and more in 100 Things You’re Not Supposed to Know.

(Disinformation Books)


 vampires are usVampires Are Us: Understanding Our Love Affair with the Immortal Dark Side

Margot Adler

With no particular interest in most genre fiction, including Vampire Fiction, as Margot Adler sat vigil at her dying husband’s bedside, she found herself inexplicably drawn to vampire novels-and quickly enough she was hooked.

As she dove deeper into the genre – by now she had read more than 270 vampire novels, from teen to adult, from gothic to modern, from detective to comic – she began to see just how each era creates the vampires it needs. Dracula, an Eastern European monster, was the perfect vehicle for 19th-century England’s fear of outsiders and of disease seeping in through its large ports.

In 1960s America, Dark Shadows gave us a Vietnam-era conflicted, struggling-to-be-moral-despite-being-predator vampire that still enthralls us today. Think Spike and Angel, Stefan and Damon, Bill and Eric, the Cullens.

Vampires Are Us explores the issues of power, politics, morality, identity, and even the fate of the planet that shows up in vampire novels today. Perhaps, as Adler suggests, our blood is oil, perhaps our prey is the planet. Perhaps vampires are us.

(Weiser Books)