Imagine, you have met the love of your life. As a result, you have what every person desires, a wonderful relationship, passionate lovemaking, and a partner for life. You cannot fathom living life without this person, and wonder how you survived all the years on earth without them. Then tragedy strikes, and death rips this person from you. In a blink of an eye, the love of your life disappears forever. You feel as though you cannot ever breath again, let alone continuing on without them. It is a heartbreaking scenario, one that has been played out time and time again in popular movies such as the 1990 film Ghost…and tragically in real life. But, does life mirror art? Or should we I say, does the afterlife mirror art?
The movie Ghost, is a story that involves two lovers whose lives are turned upside down when the boyfriend is murdered. Finding himself in the spirit, unable to be seen or heard, the ghost of Sam Wheat (Patrick Swayze) stumbles upon medium Oda Mae Brown (Whoopie Goldberg) who is able to hear him. With her assistance, he communicates with his beloved Molly Jensen (Demi Moore), and is able to convince her that he is indeed alive in the afterlife. The end of the story shows Sam entering into the spiritual world, but not before a moving goodbye to his loved one that he is leaving behind.
Although it is fiction, the movie had a very real feel of what happens on the other side of death when a loved one is left behind. For those of us that have lost a loved one to death, we wonder if the one that has passed on still love us, do they see us, hear us, can they contact us? Do they miss us as we do them?
If you have ever seen the movie, we know that Sam, after leaving his body finds himself in the afterlife and is exactly the same person he was before dying. He crossed over with all of his characteristics, personality traits, and a burning love for Molly. We watch him in fact desperately trying to reach her, and in the end using a number of ways to communicate with her, in order to help her to understand that he is still with her. At the end of the movie, Molly has a true sense that Sam is there, and will always be by her side.
As someone that has researched the subject of life after death, and who has had the experience of a loved one on the other side contacting me, I can tell you that no, our loved ones are not lost to us. Love is the most important characteristic in the universe. It transcends life and death.
When we crossover, we do not loose who we are inside. We keep our personalities, our characteristics and our feelings. Do we still carry torches for our lover left behind? You bet! Will our loved one that was snatched away in death wait for us? Very likely. Why? Because they are as eager as we are to be reunited. As time across the veil is different than what we experience here (there is none), we are moving forward here to the same inevitable reality. And that reality can lead us straight into the arms of those who we loved and loss when they crossed over to the other side.
Souls often travel in groups, so more than likely that very person that you loved but passed away, had been in your life before, and agreed to be with you when you came in, if only for a short time.
One interesting account that I recall from my book, The Encyclopedia of the Unseen World, is that of Elizabeth Taylor’s experience with who is said to be the love of her life, Mike Todd. In the late 1950’s, Taylor died on an operating table. She was clinically dead for 5 minutes. Taylor speaks of going through a tunnel, of seeing figures that she recognized, and seeing and feeling a white light, like the sun that was warm. She described it as being in liquid mercury and feeling weightless. There she saw Mike Todd, her third husband, who was killed in a plane crash in 1958. She wanted to stay with Todd, but he told her that she had work and life ahead of her. In an interview with A&E Magazine, she states, “I believe that the soul does not die. I went to that tunnel, saw the white light, and Mike [Todd]. I said, ‘Oh Mike, you’re where I want to be.’ And he said, ‘No, Baby, you can’t come over, you have to go back.’” Taylor said that it was Todd’s strength and love that brought her back. She has also stated that as a result of this experience, she has no fear of dying.
What I find interesting about this is that Todd knew she was coming, even referred to her in the affectionate, “baby” and she felt his love.
When I was working as a reporter in Alexandria, Virginia many years ago, I came across an interesting story that I named, “The Captains Lady.” There had been reports for years about a ghostly woman that was frequently seen wandering the hills and peering into the windows of people’s homes in the Potomac area. She apparently was quite striking with long black hair and dark eyes. After being spotted by one man unfamiliar with her story, he went outside after having spotted the woman peering inside of his home through a window. When he went out, there was no one there. It was explained to him later, by a neighbor, that this was the captain’s lady. Apparently, in the 1800’s in Alexandria, Virginia, when the Potomac River was a dock for ships coming in, the captain’s lady had waited eagerly for him to return after a trip out to sea. However, the captain had perished at sea during a storm. The captain’s lady, was so distraught at the news, that she committed suicide in the river. Shortly afterward however, she could be seen wandering around the hills, and the grounds of the house, where she and the captain resided. Her love for him surpassed death, as she was evidently searching for her beloved captain. (Unfortunately, what really happened was that she trapped herself on the earth plane through her distress, emotions and desperate act of killing herself. The captain however, more than likely crossed-over immediately to the other side). Did the Captain ever come to retrieve her? I believe that if he loved her, that yes, his love transcended his death as did hers and that eventually, they ended up together hopefully planning their next incarnation together.
Whomever you may be missing on this Valentine’s Day, rest assured that your loved one is thinking about you across the veil and smiling!
Happy Valentines Day!
Constance Victoria Briggs is the author of Encyclopedia of the Unseen World